Here comes the most awaited day for all those love birds and couples who want to celebrate and show their love and affection towards each other. You can see almost every gift and card shop specially decorated with red roses and flowers and teddy bears to give to loved ones. Though I’m not a fan of Valentine’s day (my friends think it’s because I have no one to celebrate it with..Duh!) But I find it pretty amusing how greatly arrangements are being made around me just for this one day. Special offers and arrangements in elite restaurants (not to forget that they cost a fortune) for couples with red heart shaped balloons, exotic cuisines, candles and violins..!
Valentine’s day brings with itself a heated debate topic on whether we should celebrate it or not. This starts a series of forward messages mentioning that it is haram for a Muslim to celebrate it as it promotes indecency and that it is a conspiration against Islam etc. Some Muslim scholars say that it was started by a Jew, some say Romans started it. Some believe that as Christians and Jews started it so they should not be a part of it. From Islamic point of view having intimate relations with non-mahrams are Haram and since it promotes such activities Muslims are supposed to refrain from it. The fact is that though so many people condemn it on internet on basis of religion, on the other hand, most of them have such relations going on in their personal life (I am not judging anyone, just stating what I have observed).There are various historic events which people usually relate with Valentine ’s Day. I believe that Valentine ’s Day is just an excuse used by lovers to express their love and commitment and used by card making companies to generate profit.
There is no logical reason for celebrating Valentine ’s Day. You see, if you love someone you should be able to show it to them 27/7 all year. One day a year is not necessary to show love. Just like Mother’s Day and such other days which are celebrated internationally, they are nothing but profit techniques for big card and gifts companies. If you love your wife or anyone who you want to be your valentine, make them feel special every day. There is no reason spending loads of money on roses, chocolates and gifts just for one day. If you love a person you’ll show it all the time not at any particular date or time. You can use that money to give a homeless person a decent meal or can buy them some decent clothes rather than spending it on a special lunch in a luxurious hotel with your wife/husband/fiancée/fiancé/girlfriend/boyfriend.
Furthermore, from what I perceive, the younger generation is taking this day way more seriously than it really should. They are getting into practices which are not only condemned in Islam but also in the society in general. I don’t think that it is their fault, as the whole environment around them is filled with couples and hearts and roses, they think that it is normal to behave like that. We are ruining our own generation by promoting such events.
So, for the sake of the younger generation, I request you not to celebrate it with enthusiasm. Religious grounds are another issue but think of the whole society in general where your children are having a negative impact on their personalities by seeing those special heart shaped cakes and cards and beautiful roses being exchanged between two different sexes. Married couples say that since they are married so no one should question them, but the thing is that a kids’ mind is immature, by giving them an idea about the concept of Valentine ’s Day you are ruining them and their thinking. Kids are too innocent to know what is right and wrong for them. Gradually we are pushing them to cross the moral limits and do things they shouldn’t be doing.
My Plea: save our generation from moral and social degradation and avoid celebrating it